Not in relation to any particular event or person.

[saffronhare]

Okay.
...(deep breath)...you know how, every once in a while, there will be an LJ post from somebody feeling fragile? Asking for the people who care to please handle them with kid gloves and sensitivity?

I need for you all to please listen to this request with the same loving-kindness. Because the need is real, though it isn't often expressed.



Recently, the drain on my energy (primarily during the work day) has outstripped the energy I put into the filters that enable me to function as a relatively decent human being. I am not naturally nice, and I cannot manage to recalibrate myself to accommodate fragility right now. I'll need you to either be able to play rough in my world or simply back away for a bit.

Whether you understand it or not, I still think this is within the range of okay, though I'm well aware that this kind of behavior isn't acceptable in most circles. I am not sad or particularly angry. I simply need some space in which I don't have to devote all that extra energy to being kind beyond what's necessary not to make my children or husband cry.


I do not own kid gloves. Thanks, guys.

Comments

[starwyse.livejournal.com]

I am not close enough to you for this to impact our relationship much but know this...I support this request. And you constantly impress me.

unconditionla

[teross50.livejournal.com]

Unconditional love is just that Accepting you as you are and what you need at the moment Like Star says I am not close anymore physically but know I support you always from my caring for you

[saffronhare.livejournal.com]

Thanks, babe.

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Will you be at RfB tomorrow?

[saffronhare.livejournal.com]

Trying to be. I don't know if I'll have Princess Boredom with me for help (she's desperate to squeeze in a few sleepovers before school starts again), and I was trying to find out about some child care.

[fionnabhar.livejournal.com]

It is possible that P.B. could come home with us after RfB. I have to check with the other parent in my household. Maybe one last double sleepover before school starts?

And you have permission to abuse me verbally, slightly to the outside of reasonable. I can sustain a lot of hit points.

[saffronhare.livejournal.com]

Thank you. For the most part, I try to surround myself with people who can take a lot of "friendly fire," but it's polite to warn folks, you know?

Double sleepover? Are you talking about Friday/Saturday or Saturday/Sunday? If they'll both be at RfB, then I bet they can be bribed into watching little ones. I sincerely hope your eldest will actually be in the meeting...

[fionnabhar.livejournal.com]

I don't know what twixxa's plans are yet. I haven't seen much of my family this week.

I was sticking an extra day in there between Saturday and Sunday, wasn't I? Would it work to bring dragon_sword there tonight, then take them both after RfB? That makes three in a row for you guys, but if you need to be kid-free Saturday, it might work. Either way, Saturday is mostly likely good for us with P.B. for even a single sleepover.

I'm pretty sure it won't be a problem with nodeal57, but I like to perpetuate the illusion that we share control. :-)

[saffronhare.livejournal.com]

I'll email you about this.

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Cool. I'll see if I can help refill your tanks, so to speak.

Also, as can fionnabhar, I have pretty good ego-armor. Of course, you know where the weak point is, but even that I can pretty much absorb if I know you're not feeling well.